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Clarificatory note

This website does not necessarily endorse everything that the recommended books or websites listed here say or stand for.

Viewers must be persuaded in their own minds (Romans 14:5), consult their spiritual leaders and teachers in their respective churches, and must be like the Bereans who were described in Acts 17:11 as being "... more noble than those in Thessalonica, in that they received the word with all readiness of mind, and searched the scriptures daily, whether those things were so."

This website welcomes your views, comments and suggestions regarding these books and websites of interest and their contents, and your own views on topics relating to the family and marriage.

Relevant articles from Salt and Light blog (on relationships, marriage, and family)

Lessons in life and love from Miriam Quiambao

Relationship tips for Shalani (and other single men and women)

Getting married? Take a look at what "covenant marriage" is

Boundaries in Marriage

Oldies but Goodies: Ten Commandments for Wives and Husbands

Why Marriages Fail: He said, She said ...

Communication: Key to your Marriage

Hope and help for the battered woman (4): Emotional abuse / psychological violence

Hope and help for the battered woman (5): Biblical response to abuse; evangelical Christians are best husbands – University of Virginia study

"Sad Movies Always Make Me Cry"

Surviving Marital Infidelity

Marital infidelity: causes, consequences and conclusions

“Are you ready? Let’s get it on!” Marriage: The Ultimate Fighting Championship

All about women: Move over, Jang Geum!

How to save your marriage alone

Do wives really want husbands to share their feelings and thoughts with them?

Emotional word pictures as a communication tool for increasing intimacy between husbands and wives

Hate Eight? Eight kinds of husbands and wives

Love Potion No. 9

Men are terrible mind readers ...

Rights and obligations between husband and wife from the Biblical standpoint and that of the Family Code

Ruffa, Ylmaz, TV Patrol, divorce and remarriage by Filipinos

The only exercise some people do is jumping to conclusions: Mind reading and negative interpretations

Transformers: Why do persistent suitors become passive husbands?

Update on the Mary Winkler case: A word of hope and encouragement for pastors' wives and female church workers

Why do men think the things they think, say the things they say, and do the things they do?

Relevant articles from Legal Updates blog

Financial support for abandoned woman and family

Adultery, concubinage and psychological violence

Divorce obtained abroad by a Filipino citizen against alien spouse recognized in the Philippines

Divorce and remarriage

The Amy Perez case: Psychological incapacity in annulment of marriages


Custody battles over children: what determines fitness of a parent over another?

Can a mother be deprived of custody of her child?

What happens in an annulment case if the respondent fails to file an Answer?

Can you legally force your spouse to live with and to love you?

When a man is married to or living in with several women successively or simultaneously, who has the right to inherit from him?

Primer on RA 7877 or the “Anti-Sexual Harassment Act of 1995”

A primer on the Newborn Screening Act of 2004

A primer on RA 8972 or the Solo Parents’ Welfare Act of 2000

Can an unwed mother avail of the benefits of the Solo Parents Welfare Act?

Legal definition of "death"

Laban o Bawi : Parents’ obligations in handling their children’s property

When a family member is a drug dependent

Family Code of the Philippines: Primer on the property relations between husband and wife

Primer on the Family Code of the Philippines: Absolute community of property

Primer on the Family Code of the Philippines: Donations by reason of marriage

Family Code of the Philippines: Primer on legitimation

Family Code of the Philippines: Primer on illegitimate children

Family Code of the Philippines: Primer on paternity, filiation and legitimate children

Family Code of the Philippines: Primer on legal separation

Family Code of the Philippines: Primer on the family and family home

Family Code of the Philippines: Primer on void and voidable marriages

Family Code of the Philippines: Primer on marriage

Primer on RA 9262 or the "Anti-Violence Against Women and their Children Act of 2004"

Hope and help for the battered woman (2): RA 9262 essential provisions

Hope and help for the battered woman (3): RA 9262 Protection Orders

The "Battered Woman Syndrome" as defense

Mediation not applicable to domestic violence cases

Free PDF newsletters on legal issues available for download



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Bible Doctrines On The Family And Marriage

Listed below are Bible verses that deal with the family, marriage, love, the roles of men and women, divorce, celibacy, sexual purity before and during marriage, etc. (For a discussion of relevant issues, please surf to the blogs Salt and Light and Legal Updates. You can also download free PDF newsletters on various legal issues.)

Farther below this page are recommended books and websites with a Christian worldview. Some of the articles in these books or websites will inform, inspire, and challenge you on topics relating to the family and marriage (besides topics in apologetics, culture and society, theology, and contemporary issues).

1. Sacrificial love and lifelong commitment are the keys to a good marriage and harmonious family relations.

2. The family is a divinely-appointed institution. Marriage is meant only between a man and a woman.

3. Sexual purity before and during marriage is God's commandment.  Infidelity is a sin and will destroy the intimate bonds between a husband and wife.

4. Fidelity between a husband and wife honors God.

5. Biblical ground for divorce is severely limited. Divorce is merely an accommodation to men and women's hardness of heart.

6. Some practical advice for spouses and unmarried persons

7.Marriage is meant only for a man and a woman who are both believers in Christ.

8. Loving, sacrificial headship of men and the gracious submission of women; love is the deepest need of a woman, while respect is a man's deepest need.

9. Duties of parents to the cildren

10. Practical effects of a woman's submission to an unbelieving husband, and a man's duty to honor his wife

11. Sanctity of sex within marriage

Sacrificial love and lifelong commitment are the keys to a good marriage and harmonious family relations.

1 Corinthians 13

1. Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not love, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal.
2. And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not love, I am nothing.
3. And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not love, it profiteth me nothing.
4. Love suffereth long, and is kind; love envieth not; love vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
5. Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
6. Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;
7. Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.
8. Love never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away.
9. For we know in part, and we prophesy in part.
10. But when that which is perfect is come, then that which is in part shall be done away.
11. When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.
12. For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known.
13. And now abideth faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love.

The family is a divinely-appointed institution. Marriage is meant only between a man and a woman.

Genesis 2

1. Thus the heavens and the earth were finished, and all the host of them.
2. And on the seventh day God ended his work which he had made; and he rested on the seventh day from all his work which he had made.
3. And God blessed the seventh day, and sanctified it: because that in it he had rested from all his work which God created and made.
4. These are the generations of the heavens and of the earth when they were created, in the day that the Lord God made the earth and the heavens,
5. And every plant of the field before it was in the earth, and every herb of the field before it grew: for the Lord God had not caused it to rain upon the earth, and there was not a man to till the ground.
6. But there went up a mist from the earth, and watered the whole face of the ground.
7. And the Lord God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul.
8. And the Lord God planted a garden eastward in Eden; and there he put the man whom he had formed.
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15. And the Lord God took the man, and put him into the garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it.
16. And the Lord God commanded the man, saying, Of every tree of the garden thou mayest freely eat:
17. But of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, thou shalt not eat of it: for in the day that thou eatest thereof thou shalt surely die.
18. And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
19. And out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof.
20. And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.
21. And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;
22. And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.
23. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
24. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
25. And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.

Sexual purity before and during marriage is God's commandment. Infidelity is a sin and will destroy the intimate bonds between a husband and wife.

Proverbs 5

15. Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well.
16. Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets.
17. Let them be only thine own, and not strangers with thee.
18. Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.
19. Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.
20. And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger?

Fidelity between a husband and wife honors God.

Malachi 2

14. Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the Lord hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant.
15. And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.
16. For the Lord, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the Lord of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.
17. Ye have wearied the Lord with your words. Yet ye say, Wherein have we wearied him? When ye say, Every one that doeth evil is good in the sight of the Lord, and he delighteth in them; or, Where is the God of judgment?

Biblical ground for divorce is severely limited. Divorce is merely an accommodation to men and women's hardness of heart.

Matthew 5

31. It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement:
32. But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.

Matthew 19

1. And it came to pass, that when Jesus had finished these sayings, he departed from Galilee, and came into the coasts of Judaea beyond Jordan;
2. And great multitudes followed him; and he healed them there.
3. The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?
4. And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,
5. And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
6. Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
7. They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?
8. He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
9. And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery

Malachi 2

16. For the Lord, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the Lord of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.

I Corinthians 7

.15. But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.

Some practical advice for spouses and unmarried persons

I Corinthians 7

1. Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.
2. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.
3. Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.
4. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
5. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
6. But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment.
7. For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.
8. I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I.
9. But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.
10. And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:
11. But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
12. But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.
13. And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.
14. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
15. But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace.
16. For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?
17. But as God hath distributed to every man, as the Lord hath called every one, so let him walk. And so ordain I in all churches.
18. Is any man called being circumcised? let him not become uncircumcised. Is any called in uncircumcision? let him not be circumcised.
19. Circumcision is nothing, and uncircumcision is nothing, but the keeping of the commandments of God.
20. Let every man abide in the same calling wherein he was called.
21. Art thou called being a servant? care not for it: but if thou mayest be made free, use it rather.
22. For he that is called in the Lord, being a servant, is the Lord's freeman: likewise also he that is called, being free, is Christ's servant.
23. Ye are bought with a price; be not ye the servants of men.
24. Brethren, let every man, wherein he is called, therein abide with God.
25. Now concerning virgins I have no commandment of the Lord: yet I give my judgment, as one that hath obtained mercy of the Lord to be faithful.
26. I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distress, I say, that it is good for a man so to be.
27. Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife.
28. But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you.
29. But this I say, brethren, the time is short: it remaineth, that both they that have wives be as though they had none;
30. And they that weep, as though they wept not; and they that rejoice, as though they rejoiced not; and they that buy, as though they possessed not;
31. And they that use this world, as not abusing it: for the fashion of this world passeth away.
32. But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord:
33. But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife.
34. There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.
35. And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.
36. But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry.
37. Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well.
38. So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better.
39. The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.
40. But she is happier if she so abide, after my judgment: and I think also that I have the Spirit of God.

Marriage is meant only for a man and a woman who are both believers in Christ.

2 Corinthians 6

14. Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
15. And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?
16. And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.
17. Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you.
18. And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty.

Loving, sacrificial headship of men and the gracious submission of women; love is the deepest need of a woman, while respect is a man's deepest need.

Ephesians 5

21. Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
22. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
23. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
24. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
25. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
26. That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27. That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
28. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
29. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
30. For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
31. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
32. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
33. Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

Duties of parents to the children

Colossians 3

18. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.
19. Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.
20. Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.
21. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.
22. Servants, obey in all things your masters according to the flesh; not with eyeservice, as menpleasers; but in singleness of heart, fearing God:
23. And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men;
24. Knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance: for ye serve the Lord Christ.
25. But he that doeth wrong shall receive for the wrong which he hath done: and there is no respect of persons.

Practical effects of a woman's submission to an unbelieving husband, and a man's duty to honor his wife

1 Peter 3

1. Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
2. While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.
3. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;
4. But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
5. For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:
6. Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.
7. Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
8. Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous:
9. Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.

Sanctity of sex within marriage

Hebrews 13

4. Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

Song of Solomon 4

1 Behold, thou art fair, my love; behold, thou art fair; thou hast doves' eyes within thy locks: thy hair is as a flock of goats, that appear from mount Gilead.
2. Thy teeth are like a flock of sheep that are even shorn, which came up from the washing; whereof every one bear twins, and none is barren among them.
3. Thy lips are like a thread of scarlet, and thy speech is comely: thy temples are like a piece of a pomegranate within thy locks.
4.
Thy neck is like the tower of David builded for an armoury, whereon there hang a thousand bucklers, all shields of mighty men.
5. Thy two breasts are like two young roes that are twins, which feed among the lilies.
6. Until the day break, and the shadows flee away, I will get me to the mountain of myrrh, and to the hill of frankincense.
7. Thou art all fair, my love; there is no spot in thee.
8. Come with me from Lebanon, my spouse, with me from Lebanon: look from the top of Amana, from the top of Shenir and Hermon, from the lions' dens, from the mountains of the leopards.
9. Thou hast ravished my heart, my sister, my spouse; thou hast ravished my heart with one of thine eyes, with one chain of thy neck.
10. How fair is thy love, my sister, my spouse! how much better is thy love than wine! and the smell of thine ointments than all spices!
11. Thy lips, O my spouse, drop as the honeycomb: honey and milk are under thy tongue; and the smell of thy garments is like the smell of Lebanon.
12. A garden inclosed is my sister, my spouse; a spring shut up, a fountain sealed.
13. Thy plants are an orchard of pomegranates, with pleasant fruits; camphire, with spikenard,
14. Spikenard and saffron; calamus and cinnamon, with all trees of frankincense; myrrh and aloes, with all the chief spices:
15. A fountain of gardens, a well of living waters, and streams from Lebanon.
16. Awake, O north wind; and come, thou south; blow upon my garden, that the spices thereof may flow out. Let my beloved come into his garden, and eat his pleasant fruits.


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Recommended Books

The Act of Marriage, The Beauty of Sexual Love
by Tim and Beverly La Haye
(A lot of pastors in the USA use this book as part of their pre-marriage counseling.)

Boundaries in Marriage
by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend
(Please take note of the Ten Laws on Boundaries.)

Communication, Key To Your Marriage
by H. Norman Wright
(The most common but also the most difficult relationship which usually develops is between a woman who is a "Feeler" and a man who is a "Thinker."

Fit To Be Tied, Making Marriages Last a Lifetime
by Bill and Lynne Hybels
(Probably the best chapters are those on "Living in Crisis Mode," "Getting Lost Along the Way," and "Whatever Happened to Romance?")

The Five Love Languages
by Dr. Gary Chapman
(Acts of kindness, quality time, gifts, physical touch, words of affirmation; find out what your spouse's primary love language is and speak to him/her in that language)

The Grace Awakening
b y Charles R. Swindoll
(Please read the chapter "A Marriage Oiled by Grace.")

His Needs, Her Needs, Building and Affair-Proof Marriage
by Willard F. Harley, Jr.
(The author through his counseling practice has helped heal thousands of broken relationships. His basic premise is that if a husband and wife continue to meet each other's needs, their marriage will flourish.)

I Kissed Dating Goodbye
by Joshua Harris
(A favorite among teens and young adults)

Intended For Pleasure, Sex Technique and Sexual Fulfillment in Christian Marriage, by Ed Wheat, M.D. and Gaye Wheat

Love Busters, Overcoming Habits That Destroy Romantic Care
by Willard F. Harley, Jr.

Love Life For Every Married Couple
by Ed Wheat, M.D. and Gloria Okes Perkins
(Find out what the BEST formula is for a superb marriage)

Love Must Be Tough, New Hope For Families in Crisis
by Dr. James C. Dobson
(A classic book; please read especially the chapters "Loving Toughness for Singles" and "Anatomy of an Adultery.")

The Marriage Builder, A Blueprint for Couples and Counselors
by Lawrence J. Crabb, Jr.

Men and Women, Enjoying the Difference
by Dr. Larry Crabb

Passion and Purity
by Elisabeth Elliot
(Written by the widow of missionary-martyr Jim Elliot)

Pillow Talk, The Intimate Marriage From A to Z
by Karen Scalf Linamen
(Fidelity should not be incidental but purposive as best chapter "Practice Fidelity and Commitment in Marriage"states)

Relationships, How To Make Bad Relationships Better and Good Relationships Great
by Drs. Les and Leslie Parrot

Rocking The Roles, Building a Win-Win Marriage
by Robert Lewis and William Hendricks
(The authors say that submission of women is not a role but a loving response to a man who exercises Biblical headship)

Sexual Intimacy in Marriage
by William Cutrer, M.D. and Susan Glahn

Straight Talk To Men and Their Wives
by Dr. James C. Dobson

Strike The Original Match, Rekindling and Preserving Your Marriage Fire, by Charles R. Swindoll

The Strong Family
by Charles R. Swindoll

What To Do When Your Spouse Says, I Don't Love You Anymore, An Action Plan To Regain Confidence, Power and Control
by David Clarke, Ph.D
(Going beyond tough love; radical action is necessary to preserve a marriage; a lot of readers may find the author's ideas difficult to accept)

What Wives Wish Their Husbands Knew About Women
by Dr. James C. Dobson
(Women have needs that men do not know of)

When God Writes Your Love Story
by Eric and Leslie Ludy.


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Recommended Websites

Radio Bible Class
(A full-service website with online courses and well-written, in-depth articles on marriage and the family, among other topics)

Building Blocks To A Strong Marriage
How Can I Know Who To Marry?
What Is The Promise Of Marriage?
Divorce and Remarriage: What Does The Bible Teach?
Abigail and Leah: Living In A Difficult Marriage
What Does God Expect Of A Man?
What Does God Expect Of A Woman?
Singleness: The Misunderstood World Of Single Adults
What Do You Do With A Broken Relationship?
Resisting The Lure: Recognizing The Dangers Of Sexual Temptation
What Is Real Love?
Eve and Rahab: Learning To Make Better Choices

Probe Ministries
(Written mostly by Dallas Theological Seminary graduates, the following articles are highly recommended)

Marriage and Familly

"It's Not Your Fault!"
Abortion
Abuse and Domestic Violence
Adultery
Arguments Against Abortion
Cohabitation
Divorce
Divorce and You
Love Myths
Marriage Reminders
Marriage Test
Online Affairs
Our Cheatin' Hearts (Radio Version)
Partial Birth Abortion
Supernatural Parenting
The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands
The Second Half of Marriage
Trash Your Marriage in Eight Easy Steps
When Your Teen Rejects Your Values
Why Marriages Fail
Why Wait Till Marriage?
Worldproofing Our Kids

Gender Issues

Four Pillars of a Man's Heart
Boys Are From mars, Girls Are From Venus; Raising Gender-Healthy Children
Cherishing Our Children's Gender
Knighthood and Biblical Manhood
The Wonderful World of Masculinity
Men Are From Mars, Women Are from Venus
Is the Tender Warrior Wild at Heart?

Personal Development / Relationships

Grappling with Guilt
Anxious for Nothing (radio transcript)

Broken Homes, Broken Hearts
Reflections of a Caregiver
Our Cheatin' Hearts (radio version)
Civility
Most Asked Questions for Dating
Principles for Dating
Depression
Integrity
Listening
Loneliness
Margin: Space Between Ourselves and Our Limits
Mid-Life Transition
How to Handle the Things You Hate But Can't Change
Pop Psychology Myths
Time and Busyness
Verbal Abuse
Your Work Matters to God
Gambling

Sexuality

Safe Sex?
Cool Stuff About Love and Sex
The Epidemic of Sexually Transmitted Diseases
The Pornography Plague
Sex Education
Sexual Purity
Safe Sex and the Facts

LoveandRespect
(Features the ministry of Emerson Eggerichs and his wife, emphasizing the Biblical reality that a woman's deepest need is love while a man's deepest need is respect)

Purefreedom
(Ministry of Dannah Gresh, emphasizing sexual purity before marriage)

True Love Waits
(A movement started by Southern Baptist churches in the USA, focusing on sexual purity before marriage, for teenagers)

CrossTV

Soulcare

Worldview Academy
(A non-denominational ministry helping train parents and students to think and live from a Christian worldview in a hostile world)

Worldview Weekend
(Apologetics website)

Worldview Matters
(Provides a Christian worldview compass to help any person to determine the proper direction to take when facing any issue)

The Christian Worldview Web Page
(Apologetics, ethics, philosophy, psychology, science, sociology and theology)

Leadership University
(Ministry affiliated with Campus Crusade for Christ; offers numerous articles on a wide variety of topics for high school and college students)

Gospel Communications Network
(A network of cooperating ministries and personalities like R.C. Sproul, Radio Bible Class/Our Daily Bread, InterVarsity and the Navigators, among others)

Christian Research Institute Journal Articles
(Besides the works of other authors, this website features the writings of Hank Hanegraaf who is also known as "Bible Answer Man")

Stand To Reason
(A ministry of Greg Koukl; features articles on abortion, apologetics, ethics, evolution, homosexuality, philosophy, science, social issues and theology)

Spiritual Counterfeits Project
(In-depth analysis from Christian perspective of near-death experiences, virtual reality and New Age practices)

Access Research Network
(Christian perspective on science, technology and society)

Vital Signs Ministries
(Christ-centered ministry committed to pro-life issues, with articles on abortion, infanticide, euthanasia, chastity and other life issues)

The Cultural Commission
(Defending and promoting the Christian worldview through intercessory prayer, youth discipleship, evangelism, apologetics, reason and accurate historical knowledge)

Darkness To Light
(Theology, apologetics, cults, ethics, Bible versions, with full text of a literal New Testament translation)

Please Convince Me
(Life is full of questions this website might have answers you need)

Got Questions Ministries
(44,760 and counting Bible questions answered)

The Biblical Studies Foundation Christianity and Homosexuality Home Page
(With links to Exodus International and other ex-gay change ministries)

Discipleship Journal Magazine
(With readings for personal pleasure or as vital resource for teaching and sermons)

The Medical Institute for Sexual Health
(Nonprofit medical organization founded 1992 by gynecologist Joe S. McIlhaney, M.D. to fight world epidemic of nonmarital pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases through a mutually faithful lifelong relationship in marriage)

Books and Culture
(Part of Christianity Today, features editorials analyzing current issues and topics from a Christian perspective)

International Institute for Christian Studies
(This ministry establishes Departments of Christian Studies in public universities overseas, providing professors with a Christian worldview; also involved in evangelism, Bible studies, churches and other non-classroom settings)

Christians in Pain
(Ministry for prayer partners to transform individuals, small groups and churches)

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